Truthblog: Thank you for wanting to share your story.... Can we have you?
Victim: I started dating at the age of 14, then I was in senior secondary school class 3. I had this amazing guy as my boyfriend. We only talked over phone, he was my first boyfriend.
We never had the advantage of been together for long period of time because I was always scared to visit him alone.
One day he invited me to his place, I took up the courage and trust to go there... I mean, he was my boyfriend.
It was the first time I went visiting his place, unfortunately,
he was the only one at home ......All of a sudden, He started acting funny by the time I realized where he was driving at, it was too late...my attempt to run out was to no avail as he had locked the door.....he started pulling his trousers and pant ....I Pleaded, telling him I was still a Virgin and I was even on my mensural period that very day ....He was stronger than me, he had his way and since then i became his worst enemy .....he does nt wnt to see me again.
Truthblog: How were you able to cope with the whole situation?
Victim: I was able to cope because my mum was there for me.She did not even allow me think about it for once
Truthblog: What part exactly did your mum play in this matter?
Victim: When it happen, I did not tell anyone about it.....I wanted to keep it to myself but i was dying inside, the pain and flashbacks kept coming, I found it difficult to mingle again
She notice I was not myself and with a lot of Pressure, prayer and nurturing she was able to pull out the sting from my skin.
She took me to d hospital for proper clean up then she ask me to delete everytin abt him in my life .
She bought me closer to her side because before the incident I was not living with her.
Truthblog: U were not living with her(your mom) when the incidence happened??
Victim: Yes
I was living with her sister.....I mean my big mummy and she was the careless type......after the incident I was with her for 2weeks and she did not notice anything till mom came to my rescue.
Truthblog: After the incident, how do you feel anytime you see this guy?
Victim: After I left his sight .....I did not make him see me until after 3yrs.....though I have tired to get over it by then.
TruthBlog: Did this situation affect your trust for people(both male and female).
Victim: Yeah.......I find it really hard trust people especially the opposite sex......ever since then I have decided not to go into another relationship for a long period of time, till I was sure I was off the trauma.
Truthblog: Did the incidence perhaps affect your new relationships or you have decided to give up on love?
Victim:
Yeah.....a lot of times.....even till this moment .....only I Can't give up on love just like that because they are not the same
I have to love again ....but sometimes I find it really difficult to trust and communicate well in my relationship
Truthblog: What would you say about the stigma attached to this experience... How does it affect victim?
Victim: Hmmmmm
The feeling,the pain,the agony is not something to be proud of
It affect phys ecological......it effect mentally
It depends on d kind of situation the rape occur
Some girls died in the spot while some are sane for lot of years
Seriously .....The best thing is to quickly recover from the incident
TruthBlog: What you advise ladies in relationship
Victim: To be in a relationship is not something bad,just dat ladies has to be very careful
Dont visit a guy alone for the first time ....you Hi dont know their plan
And when you are in a relationship you just have to know your partner better before anything else comes up
Truthblog: What's your advice to those who have had similar experience
Victim: Hmmmm
I know it is not easy at all
Some survived it while some died in the pain
As long as you were strong enough to survive it, the best thing to do is to get over it ......live well.......and do better things with ur life
Truly as a victim....I know it is really difficult to get over it ......you just have to be strong if not for everyone but for that one man who is ready to accept you and your pains ......and for your future kids.(in my mom's words)
Truthblog: I love your approch towards the issue and I believe you would be a motivation to other victims who are still downcasted... Thank You for having us and we hope Rape and its viper is reduce and gradually eradicated in our society...
So bad but they(rapists) will get served in their own dishes....
Its a thing of hurt and dismay... But believe me.... You are a survivor .... That makes you a conqueror.... Press on... The best revenge for them is for you to be a success... And am glad you are heading towards that... So let's the thought and feelings go over you...it has become a success story because some don't come out of the mess ... Some commit suicide... Some leave a retarded life...Some die during the incident... But you looked behind that and proceeded towards your goal and purpose in life... May God Almighty grant you the Grace and mercy to become who you want to be
Thank You for stopping by to read from us on True Life Gist.... Its your girl. OPEYANJU. Read from us again on our next episode.
Truthblog
Sharing life's aspect in its natural state!
Victim: I started dating at the age of 14, then I was in senior secondary school class 3. I had this amazing guy as my boyfriend. We only talked over phone, he was my first boyfriend.
We never had the advantage of been together for long period of time because I was always scared to visit him alone.
One day he invited me to his place, I took up the courage and trust to go there... I mean, he was my boyfriend.
It was the first time I went visiting his place, unfortunately,
he was the only one at home ......All of a sudden, He started acting funny by the time I realized where he was driving at, it was too late...my attempt to run out was to no avail as he had locked the door.....he started pulling his trousers and pant ....I Pleaded, telling him I was still a Virgin and I was even on my mensural period that very day ....He was stronger than me, he had his way and since then i became his worst enemy .....he does nt wnt to see me again.
Truthblog: How were you able to cope with the whole situation?
Victim: I was able to cope because my mum was there for me.She did not even allow me think about it for once
Truthblog: What part exactly did your mum play in this matter?
Victim: When it happen, I did not tell anyone about it.....I wanted to keep it to myself but i was dying inside, the pain and flashbacks kept coming, I found it difficult to mingle again
She notice I was not myself and with a lot of Pressure, prayer and nurturing she was able to pull out the sting from my skin.
She took me to d hospital for proper clean up then she ask me to delete everytin abt him in my life .
She bought me closer to her side because before the incident I was not living with her.
Truthblog: U were not living with her(your mom) when the incidence happened??
Victim: Yes
I was living with her sister.....I mean my big mummy and she was the careless type......after the incident I was with her for 2weeks and she did not notice anything till mom came to my rescue.
Truthblog: After the incident, how do you feel anytime you see this guy?
Victim: After I left his sight .....I did not make him see me until after 3yrs.....though I have tired to get over it by then.
TruthBlog: Did this situation affect your trust for people(both male and female).
Victim: Yeah.......I find it really hard trust people especially the opposite sex......ever since then I have decided not to go into another relationship for a long period of time, till I was sure I was off the trauma.
Truthblog: Did the incidence perhaps affect your new relationships or you have decided to give up on love?
Victim:
Yeah.....a lot of times.....even till this moment .....only I Can't give up on love just like that because they are not the same
I have to love again ....but sometimes I find it really difficult to trust and communicate well in my relationship
Truthblog: What would you say about the stigma attached to this experience... How does it affect victim?
Victim: Hmmmmm
The feeling,the pain,the agony is not something to be proud of
It affect phys ecological......it effect mentally
It depends on d kind of situation the rape occur
Some girls died in the spot while some are sane for lot of years
Seriously .....The best thing is to quickly recover from the incident
TruthBlog: What you advise ladies in relationship
Victim: To be in a relationship is not something bad,just dat ladies has to be very careful
Dont visit a guy alone for the first time ....you Hi dont know their plan
And when you are in a relationship you just have to know your partner better before anything else comes up
Truthblog: What's your advice to those who have had similar experience
Victim: Hmmmm
I know it is not easy at all
Some survived it while some died in the pain
As long as you were strong enough to survive it, the best thing to do is to get over it ......live well.......and do better things with ur life
Truly as a victim....I know it is really difficult to get over it ......you just have to be strong if not for everyone but for that one man who is ready to accept you and your pains ......and for your future kids.(in my mom's words)
Truthblog: I love your approch towards the issue and I believe you would be a motivation to other victims who are still downcasted... Thank You for having us and we hope Rape and its viper is reduce and gradually eradicated in our society...
So bad but they(rapists) will get served in their own dishes....
Its a thing of hurt and dismay... But believe me.... You are a survivor .... That makes you a conqueror.... Press on... The best revenge for them is for you to be a success... And am glad you are heading towards that... So let's the thought and feelings go over you...it has become a success story because some don't come out of the mess ... Some commit suicide... Some leave a retarded life...Some die during the incident... But you looked behind that and proceeded towards your goal and purpose in life... May God Almighty grant you the Grace and mercy to become who you want to be
Thank You for stopping by to read from us on True Life Gist.... Its your girl. OPEYANJU. Read from us again on our next episode.
Truthblog
Sharing life's aspect in its natural state!
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