Sometimes ago, I found myself walking out of a really tight friendship zone. I loathe my actions looking at the memories with this dear friend, I discovered I had made a whole lot of mistakes, presently I still discard those memories because I made some promises that I personally knew I couldn't fulfill. After the incident, I decided to avoid or completely stop making promises (as the case may be).
Promises, as we all know is making a future or advance commitment, dedication or prediction. Most of us make a lot of promises but have we really thought about fulfilling the previous debt?
Making promises can be very dangerous if we don't fulfill them. We carry them on our necks everywhere we go and they secretly affect our lives. When we see the people who we had made the promises to, we tend to feel startled and pray they don’t remember our debts.
Avoiding promises can be practiced; at least it leaves us on a safer side. It helps us live a free life which is preferred to not meeting up to tasks and tendering apology for an unfulfilled promise.
Personally, I tend not to fully accept an unfulfilled promise.
Making promises puts the promisee's mind at rest and comfy because he believes that whatever the situation might be, the promise will definitely be addressed. Meanwhile the promiser on the other hand is either not taking it seriously or situations around aren't palatable to fulfill the promise which is a debt that has to be paid. So, I think it is better you hadn't made those promises.
You make promises when you are rest assured that come what may, you will be able to address it to the point of duty. Let's try to avoid making promises especially when we know we won’t be able to fulfill them, start getting serious with them when we are compelled to make one and fulfill every of our past made promises. In situations where we can't fulfill the promises, the onus is on us to explain to the promisee in a very understanding manner. Let’s put an end to making fun promises like I did some years ago and live a debt free life.
Thank you for reading.
promises are great wen made and wen fulfilled and otherwise like u stated but I think u came too strong at a point,some times wen we make promises we sure we can fulfil them but situations change and we not able to fulfil them although u address our next action that we should explain in an understandable manner but u forgot the reason why d promise was made in d first place, promises at times are made to make "promisee" comfortable, gain their trust or even ease dem of worry and if u drive us to not making promises and make sure we can really really really achieve d promise before making dem we might slack at d purpose of why we make some promises in d first place, in that aspect I feel u came to strong. although I do belong to ur school of thought of making promises and fulfilling dem, and making d ones u can't fulfil........ you doing a great job with this blog and ur write ups I have followed u very well from d start, and my next words are not to pull u down but to encourage and make ur write up better so we can keep enjoying TRUTH, I feel of all ur post till now u have done better at the introduction level than this particular post it came in a bit weak kinda, not a critic or a write up expert just stating my observation u done better u can do better. u doing a great job well done.
ReplyDeleteThanks. Will work on it by His Grace
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